The Key to Everlasting Love with Others
“ ‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.’ This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ All the Law and the Prophets hang on these two commandments.” Matthew 22:40
God has told us in the Ten Commandments that we shall not have any other gods before Him, Exodus 20:3. Anything that comes before God is an idol. Do you realize that your spouse can become your idol? This puts a lot of pressure on your spouse as you constantly look to them to fulfill your happiness. This pressure is the first step to the detriment of your marriage.
Then there are the people that look to themselves first. I am sure you have heard it said before, “Take care of yourself first,” many speak about loving yourself first, but this only leads to selfishness. Not that we shouldn’t take care of ourselves, we just shouldn’t come before God. We must first turn all of our thoughts, dreams, and feelings over to God so that we will be empowered through Him to love not only ourselves in the way God desires, but also others.
Coming to God first offers many unseen blessings. The first of which we will never be alone, to know that God is by your side and is there to offer support and a promise of a good outcome is the first step to feeling safe, secure and empowered!
Next by looking to God you will have an example on how to love. You will learn forgiveness, kindness, compassion, unselfishness, companionship, and comfort just to name a few.
Placing God in your marriage as one of three cords, also known as the triple cord, will bind your love into Everlasting. He is the glue that binds. He is also the great mediator. When there is conflict in your marriage and you come before your father He will guide you on how to overcome the conflict. He will convict your heart when you do not love as you should, and He will help you to forgive your spouse when they do not love, as they should. We are just human after all, humans are full of mistakes and always will be, and this is where grace comes in.
When we accept the grace of God we are more willing to offer grace. We cannot give what we do not have. We must go to God first, only then will we have the key to
-La Vonne Earl